To The Stepmom Who Feels Broken

Your mothering matters.

Every stepmom knows that mothering is hard. Whether you are a stepmother who has her own children or you’re a stepmother who doesn’t, it’s pretty much universally agreed that being a mother or in a mothering role is one of THE hardest jobs out there.

So if you’re not the biological mother but you’re still trying to mother children in all kinds of varying dynamics and circumstances as a stepmom — there will be moments when you may feel absolutely broken.

There will be days that seem to hit you like a ton of bricks. There will be feelings of bitterness, isolation, and exasperation.

You may be lucky enough to reap joyous rewards from your stepmom role OR you may be in a pit of despair with no view of light at the end of the tunnel.

Dating and/or marrying someone who already has children is a commitment that’s on a whole other level. Stepparenting is not a game. It’s a journey of compromise, sacrifice, and humility.

Feeling broken within these blended family dynamics isn’t just normal — it’s a rite of passage.

The formal definition of broken is, ‘having been fractured or damaged and no longer in one piece or in working order’ OR ‘having given up all hope; despairing.’

Does this feel like you in your stepmom role? Do you feel hopeless? Do you feel damaged beyond repair?

This stepparenting thing certainly isn’t for everyone and so many stepmoms find themselves torn between the emotional stress of trying to please everyone and the desire to simply quit and walk away.

So, what do you do? How do you become unbroken?

Well — you don’t.

You ARE going to break — maybe over and over again and in varying ways.

But it’s what you do with those broken pieces when you battle to put yourself back together again that matters.

As humans, we are made up of many broken pieces — some pieces are broken by experiences— and some are broken by chance. Sometimes we can’t control what pieces we have to use or repair ourselves with. But sometimes we can.

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